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Wednesday, February 29, 2012

carmondomon:

starsuponhispalms:

fuckinglesbian:

myfreudianslop:

rainbowballz:

rainbowballz:

I took this picture right after two boys walked past me and not quietly whispered that I looked like ‘a fat cow’. Had this happened to me even a year ago I probably would have been a wreck and I’m not going to bullshit you and say that I didn’t feel anything - of course it hurt. That’s not exactly a great thing to hear. But after pulling out a pair of jeans I wanted to try on and going to the dressing room, I took a few minutes just to look in the mirror, to try and see what those boys saw when they called me a fat cow.

I saw this. I saw me. I saw a nineteen-year-old college student who likes to write and read and blog, who enjoys Disney more than the average person, who could talk about John Green and Batman and Severus Snape for weeks, who shaved her head in November just because she fucking wanted to; I saw the person my girlfriend is in love with, the person my best friends turn to when they need help, the aunt my niece kisses every night before bed. I saw an optimistic young woman who has come so far despite an anxiety disorder that she was convinced would keep her from ever being happy.

I didn’t see my body because it does not define me. And why should I give a shit if two strangers think I look like a fat cow? I shouldn’t. I don’t. Besides, I’d rather be a fat cow than a giant asshole.

It just feels really great not giving a shit. I recommend you all do the same.

myxolydian:

It’s not like you couldn’t lose 30-35 pounds. Just saying, in case you really don’t understand what they were talking about.

Of course I understand what they were saying. I’m clearly chubby, therefore I’m a fat cow. Maybe if I weighed 30-35 pounds, they wouldn’t have called me a fat cow. I’m very aware of this. You seem to have just misunderstood everything about this post, though. I am fine just like this -I’m healthy. I’m doing well. I have great things going for me.

If you think that I should lose 30-35 pounds, or that I’m a fat cow, or that I’m ugly, well, that’s your prerogative. You can go ahead and think that. The point of making this post was to reinforce the fact that I shouldn’t give a shit, I don’t give a shit, and I shouldn’t live my life according to anyone but myself.

Thanks for being an ass, though.

myxolydian:

No, you don’t understand. You’re not healthy. You should probably lose 30-35 pounds. You are 30-35 pounds overweight because you don’t care. If you cared about yourself or if you cared about the people who have put ime and energy into loving you you would do the right thing and lose weight so you can be there for them longer. Don’t fuck with us. If those people didn’t cut you with the truth you wouldn’t seek validation on the internet. Make your outside reflect your inside. Unless it already does. Then just take it.

Are you my doctor? Do you know anything about my health just by looking at me? I didn’t know you had that amazing super ability. Maybe you should go to medical school so you can wow the fuck out of everyone there with your incredible talent of telling who is healthy and who isn’t based on their appearance. Really. Bravo.

While you’re at it, fuck off.

Fuck the haters, you are a lovely person inside and out, and gorgeous to boot. Don’t ever let them break your stride.

IGNORE THAT DUMB BITCH. Fatphobia rages on. She’s talking about how she doesn’t care what other people think of her (which is awesome and correct thinking) and you tell her she needs to lose weight? Fuck off. There is no one correct size. Some people have a naturally body state thats larger or smaller. Its called genes. Nothing upsets me more than people starving themselves or doing crazy workouts to be someone else’s idea of skinny. Of course we should all try to eat well and exercise but if your body is naturally in that state, THATS WHAT IT WANTS. Don’t ever conform your body to what society says it should be. I fucking hate people.

You are beautiful. And people who honestly think that everyone should be extremely skinny are just idiots, I can’t even begin. Also I just checked the blog of the guy who called you fat, and he apparently thinks rape is funny, so screw him.

I mean….I can see the point that asshole was trying to make, but that was a really bad way of saying it. I’ve recently put on weight and I’m not worried that I look bad, I’m worried about my health because I know its unhealthy fat because I’m on a poor college kid diet, but maybe that’s just me because I have an anxiety disorder and an autoimmune disorder (not a good combination when you’re terrified of getting sick o.o) You’re absolutely lovely though, power to you. It takes a lot to be confident of your body shape. I might cry if someone called me a cow, especially when 6 months ago I was 15 pounds lighter and could fit into my favorite jeans.

Carmen, size or shape does not determine health. Of course you know your health problems might be related to your weight gain, but you can’t say anything for the lovely OP’s body. Whether she’s at risk for disease or fit as a fiddle is pretty much impossible to guess. And besides, telling anyone to lose weight if you’re not their doctor is just a huge no.

tl;dr love your lovely bodies UvU

Since when does it matter if ‘your outside matches your inside’? Oh wait, I know. It never has, and it never will. There is no ‘rule book’ saying that all kind people with big dreams and ambition have to have a pleasing exterior to match, and it’s funny that the only people you find saying things like that just happen to be beautiful and (or just simply) ignorant, biased men and women. Contrary to popular belief, people who are ‘bigger’ do not automatically have every health issue from diabetes to morbid obesity. They can run, jump, play, and participate in sports and activities just as well as any ‘skinny’ person can. I know this from first-hand experience. Can someone please explain to me why exactly people are trying to change this girls appearance when she is perfectly healthy, happy, and successful? Could you tell me that, Myxolydian? Why does it matter that much?

tl;dr Unless you have a medical degree and you actually know this person, please don’t tell her how to live her life.